March 22, 2010
Perseverance
March 20, 2010
Life's dream
March 19, 2010
To let go or not
At work, I can make hundreds of decision so naturally. But when it comes to your dear ones, you fear the consequences and whether you made that right decision. Maybe to some of you out there, it is simple, but to me I find it really tough deciding whether I should check my daughter’s homework. Or if whether if I check her homework, and find out that she made mistakes, should I point out to her? Or l should I let her learn a lesson.
I think there is no right or wrong and there is no definite answer to this. Maybe if she checks her own homework, she will learn to take charge and be more responsible. Maybe if she is corrected by the teacher, she realizes how grave are her mistakes and why she needs to buck up. The “maybes” can go on. But since I have done one way for so many years and it didn’t work out for my daughter, why not I try another way.
So, this morning, I took the first step (or second?) I let her decide whether she will do her Maths/ Chinese. She cried and threw tantrum, I kept quiet and hugged her, and told her Mummy loves her. She still wouldn’t budge on her maths. I told her firmly, tomorrow you still have to do it. So, is that “letting go or not”?
March 13, 2010
Expectations and Love
Cheers to a good start!
March 10, 2010
Good communication is everything.
Exams
See all the blog posts are backdated, since I wrote them earlier, but didnt get to publish them until now!
So, kids will be having exams today and for the next 2 days. I think they have prepared well enough, this time. Even though the teachers covered the syllabus quite hurriedly this time, at least the scope of the exams have all been covered.
Now, it is all up to the kids, to try their best and put what they have learnt on paper. I have reminded them to be careful and check their answers thoroughly. Now, let’s say a little prayer to that the kids to be calm and clear headed so that they can think and attempt the questions smartly. Om mani padme om!
Kai Gong
The kids will be having exams next week. So, it is notes crunching time again. But, this time, since we have been on our toes since the school reopened and because I have been with them during my half-day-at-home days, I should think that it is pretty relaxed kind of revision.
It was tough getting them to ‘start work’ after the long Chinese New Year holidays, although they told friends and relative that they ‘kai gong’ on the seventh day of CNY. Kids are cute in the way they say things.
But, anyway, after the get the drift that there is no escape from revision, they kind of accepted it, that they have to sit through the one/two hours before they get to the Doraemon, Power Rangers or Smurfs. Anyway, fingers crossed and hopefully, the kids try their best too. I know Mummy always try her best.
Today, I work full day because John is off. Funny thing is I miss the kids. Previously, I used to be easily stressed up with them eg. their dilly-dallying before sleeping time, or their not wanting to eat this or that etc. Now, I can manage and get around all those things with much ease. And kids are also more receptive. Maybe, because they have grown up. Mummy has also grown up. I don’t deny I am learning how to tackle them everyday. And I hope I get better everyday.
March 7, 2010
New arrangement
12th Feb 2010
So, this new arrangement of me working half days has been carried out for 2 weeks. How do I feel? Do the kids like it? Well, personally, I still have some getting use to do. Jobwise, at times, it is quite rush, having to squeeze in work into half a day. Sometimes, some documents are piling up when I go in for work. Right now, I am still on unpaid half day leaves until the arrangement gets the go-ahead with the top management. But, other than workload, I still bear full responsibility for the functioning of the department. So, the company doesn’t lose out at all.
On the home front, I think I can manage better since I spend more time with the kids. I get to know if they have certain problems with their schoolwork which they need mummy to coach them. As much as I want to be there for them, I also want them to learn to be more independent. So, I will try to work in the “background’ when they are attempting some questions, or finishing up their homework. I will try not to push them too much. Balancing schoolwork and playtime is important.
Kids. I can sense they don’t miss the childcare this time round, since they still get to see their friends at school and still go to the childcare when I need to work full-time during the first week of the month.
When I asked them, “ Do you prefer to stay at home, or go to the childcare?” Both would say without hesitation, “Home!”. “ Why?” Reply:” Food!” Gee…. Kids are kids, you can please them just by giving them their favourite foods. For 2 weeks, I have not repeated the lunch menu. It was mixture of healthy food (fish/chicken porridge, salmon with spaghetti, macaroni , fried noodles, ) plus some kids fave eg. (burger, hotdogs/egg sandwiches, curry mee). They even get to bring food to school for recess on some days. So, it is a stone that can kill many birds.
But, many people ask me whether I really need to sacrifice this way. Yes, I am going ahead with this arrangement. Tired, I maybe, but at least I have to try and make the most out of this. Of course, I hope things turn out the way we expect it to be eg. kids’ schoolwork improve, communication gets better etc. But however, I want to tell myself not to expect sky high on the kids’ results, since it will be added pressure to everyone.
So, for this Chinese New Year, let’s let our hair down. I am going to give the kids a break from their schoolwork. I am giving myself a break too. Yeah… HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR!